Relationship Counseling
Faith-based Counseling in El Dorado Hills & across California
When your relationship feels stuck…
you don’t have to hold it together alone.
This is your time to slow down, name what’s been hurting, and refocus with intention.
We support couples who are:
Tired of trying to figure it out on their own
Exhausted from the hurt
Waking up anxious and unhappy
Feeling misunderstood or underappreciated
Questioning whether things will get better or fall apart
At Set Apart Oasis, we help you face the difficult conversations with support.
Relationships are meant to bring:
Connection
Comfort
Emotional Closeness
Stability
Protection
Security
Safety
Laughter
Friendship
Happiness
Joy
And yet… even the strongest couples lose their way.
Sometimes it happens suddenly.
Sometimes slowly over years.
Regardless of who you are, what you do, how much you love each other, or how strong your faith is...
Relationships carry our greatest joy and our deepest pain.
They challenge us to grow.
They confront our fears.
They expose old wounds.
They stretch our capacity to love and be loved.
At Set Apart Oasis - you don’t have to navigate this alone...
When things begin to shift...
When communication breaks down… emotions run high.
When you feel unseen or unheard… undervalue cuts deep.
When distance grows… connection begins to fade.
When trust feels uncertain… everything feels heavy.
And slowly… you might find yourself wondering:
“What is happening?”
“Why does this hurt so much?”
“Are we going to make it?”
“Is this relationship even right anymore?”
These questions are human.
Relational overwhelm is human.
Navigating the complexities of a relationship - isn’t abnormal.
There are real, messy, human parts of being in a relationship.
Many of us were never taught how to navigate the hard parts of love -
and carrying it alone can make everything feel heavier.
Whether intimacy is fading, trust has ruptured, or you’re doing “okay” but not deeply connected the way you once were…
If you’ve been carrying the emotional load for too long, it may be time to reach out for support.
At Set Apart Oasis Counseling, We Support Couples Who Feel:
Something is off, but hard to pinpoint
Disconnected emotionally, questioning the relationship
Stuck in repeating patterns of defensiveness, shutting down, over explaining
Overwhelmed by Communication Issues ane cycles of Fighting
Unsure how to rebuild trust after hurt or betrayal
Lonely in their relationship
Afraid the relationship may not heal
Longing for closeness, safety, and partnership again
Here, your relationship is met with compassion.
We desire to offer care that is Real. Relational. Restorative. Faith-Honoring.
A Sanctuary for
Real Conversations + Real Repair
Your relationship deserves a space that is calm, sacred, private, and emotionally safe.
A place where both of you can soften, breathe, speak honestly, and finally feel seen.
Our environment is intentionally designed to support this:
Private - No traditional waiting room
Calming + Grounding Aesthetic
Personalized, Tailored Treatment
Our environment is set up to bring this experience...
And the experience extends beyond the therapy room.
Our location was chosen with purpose - a setting that invites couples to slow down and reconnect.
Just steps outside, you can:
Grab a coffee or a bite to eat
Sit together by the fountains
Take a peaceful walk through the nearby shops and greenery
Spend a few extra minutes grounding yourselves before or after session
A place surrounded by dining, nature, and peaceful pathways.
An environment intentionally selected to support your healing, reflection, and connection.
Common Areas Our Clients Focus On:
Relational - rooted in connection and emotional attunement
We help you both understand what’s really happening underneath the arguments, silence, shutdowns, or misunderstandings.
Attachment-Informed - so you stop attacking symptoms and start healing the source
You’ll learn why certain moments trigger fear, defensiveness, anger, hurt or retreat and how your histories shape your reactions.
Emotionally Safe - Authenticity
Sessions are structured to protect each partner’s heart, voice, and dignity
Spiritually Sensitive - honoring your faith without forcing it
We honor your faith, values, and beliefs while integrating clinical grounding.
Personalized Experience
Set Apart Oasis Counseling thrives to provide an experience that feels calming, grounding and deeply connective.
We focus on your preferences of care, needs, and applicable to the well being of the treatment process. We offer options convenient for you.
For The Couple Who’s Experiencing…
…Arguments that never resolve
Where both of you feel misunderstood or defensive.
…Fighting the same fight
Where patterns continue, and unhappiness lingers.
Painful memories won’t go away, overwhelming the relationship.
…A loss of intimacy
You want connection, but don’t know how to get it or reach for it anymore.
…Chaos
Balancing careers, kids, responsibilities - and losing each other in the process.
...Betrayal, disappointments, and hurts keep resurfacing.
Wanting more: more closeness, more communication, more safety, more partnership.
If you're tired of doing it alone…
If you want to focus on your relationship and explore your options…
This is the place where healing can happen.
At Set Apart Oasis
we hold space for you.
How we Help Couples Heal + Reconnect
A general framework of integrative relational therapy
(Structure varies depending on modality, needs, and goals.)
1. The Groundbreaking Stage
We explore what’s been heavy, unspoken, suppressed, or hurting.
We clarify your needs, goals, hopes, and may begin to identify the patterns beneath the struggle.
(This stage focuses on truly getting to know you as a couple - discussing what’s been happening and beginning the assessment process)
2. The Insight & Awareness Stage
We identify cycles, attachment needs, triggers, trauma imprints, communication breakdowns contributing to your “stuckness.” We explore the strengths that can support healing and clarity.
This is often where deeper clarity emerges — individually or together — about what you want moving forward.
3. The Reconnection + Repair Stage
You learn new ways to communicate, reach for each other, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional safety.
4. The Strengthening Stage
We continue to expand and deepen healthy patterns of connection, skill building, strengthen intimacy, and intentionally work towards building a foundation that supports your relationship
No pressure.
Just real conversations, with a therapy plan crafted for you.
What Couples Often Want Support with
“We want to feel close again.”
“We want healthier communication.”
“We want to stop repeating the same issues.”
“We need help healing past hurts.”
“We’re doing life together, but not connecting.”
“We want to rebuild trust and intimacy.”
“We want to feel understood.”
“We want to feel emotionally safe again.”
“We want to stop walking on eggshells around each other.”
For Couples at a Crossroad:
“Is this relationship right for us anymore?”
“Can we realistically stay together, rebuild and be happy?”
“Do we repair or accept a different path?”
“We’re trying to make decisions that honor both of us, but the pressure feels overwhelming.”
“Are we letting emotions run us, denying the truth?”
“We need solutions, not crisis-driven decisions.”
“How do we co-parent if things change?”
“How do we move forward - together or separately?”
Your relationship matters.
Your needs matter.
There may be a meaningful path forward.
Our Heart for Your Relationship
Your relationship matters - deeply.
Your longing to be seen
Your longing to be understood
Your longing to be safe
Your longing to heal what hurts
Your longing to not lose each other, or to simply find clarity
Your longing for peace and new direction
We hold your relationship with the kind of care that is
Real. Relational. Restorative. Faith-honoring.
Because you deserve more than barely making it.
You deserve to feel connected again -
To yourself, to each other, and to whatever future you choose next.
Meet Bithiah - The Therapist Behind the Work
If you’re wondering who will be walking with you through this process, meet Bithiah —
the heart and vision behind Set Apart Oasis Counseling.
About Bithiah & Her Passion for Relationship Therapy
Bithiah Williams is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) and psychotherapist with years of personal insight, clinical education, and real-world experience in both inpatient and outpatient settings.
Her background includes individual and relationship counseling with a specialized focus in integrative approaches — because couples have unique needs that require flexibility and depth.
Beyond private practice, Bithiah provides crisis intervention and emergency response services to those with urgent needs. She is often requested to travel directly to crisis scenes, hospitals, or workplaces following high-risk or traumatic events.
In these settings, she provides on-site crisis counseling, assessment, consultation, emotional stabilization, and essential resources for those impacted.
She also provides clinical support to veterans and has expanded her clinical services within the prison system.
Grounded in extensive experience and driven by a desire to offer care that truly makes a difference, Bithiah is the Founder and Owner of Set Apart Oasis Counseling — a space she created to offer therapy that feels personal, relational, meaningful, and faith-honoring.
Her vision is to create a therapeutic sanctuary - an oasis - where clients feel safe, supported, and deeply seen. In ways that honor the depth of their story, their relationship, and the healing that genuinely matters to them.
Treating couples is one of Bithiah’s passion’s.
She has completed extensive training beyond standard education and licensing requirements - in several evidence-based relational modalities - with focus to help couples better understand each other, work through trauma interfering with relationship dynamics, repair what’s been hurting, and build healthier patterns together. Bithiah continues to expand her research and education to better support the couples she serves.
Bithiah’s Therapeutic Approach
Evidence-Based + Emotionally Attuned + Spiritually Sensitive
“No two couples are the same. I genuinely love learning who you are and choosing therapeutic approaches that fit you best. Because people respond differently to various therapy styles, I am draw from multiple specialized relational modalities, rather than staying fixed in just one. This flexibility allows our work to feel unique, tailored, and aligned with your specific needs - while also offering structure and guidance that certain modalities provide.”
- Bithiah
Your history, your dynamics, and your past therapy experiences all help shape the path we take, allowing the process to feel intentional, supportive, and uniquely yours.
Why An Integrative Approach Matters
Couples are complex, and every relationship responds differently to therapy.
Some approaches resonate deeply, while others fall short.
No single model is the only right approach - which is why a flexible, relational approach matters.
My specialty is grounded in:
Relationship healing
Couples in crisis
Attachment- and emotion-focused work
Communication and conflict patterns
Trauma-informed relational dynamics
Optional faith-integrated support
Training in multiple relational modalities allows therapy to be tailored to your unique dynamics - not forced into a one-size-fits-all model.
How I Support Your Relationship:
A Relational + Evidence-Based Approach
Here is a simple, approachable blueprint of the frameworks used in couples therapy...
Primary Relational Frameworks
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
A research-based approach that helps couples:
✓ Understand emotional patterns driving conflict
✓ Explore attachment wounds, unmet needs, trauma histories, love maps
✓ Address past hurts that keep resurfacing
✓ Reduce pursue/withdraw cycles (criticism vs. shutdown)
✓ Build emotional safety, trust, and secure connection
EFT helps you understand why reactions feel so big, why certain moments trigger fear or defensiveness, and how to reach for each other (or yourself) with more clarity and safety.
The Gottman Method
Based on 40+ years of relationship research
✓ Strengthening communication
✓ Repairing after conflict
✓ Increasing emotional intimacy and friendship
✓ Rebuilding trust and shared meaning
You’ll practice skills in session and walk away with practical tools to support your day-to-day relationship.
Family Systems Therapy (Integrative)
Helps you understand how:
• Family history
• Learned roles
• Early relational patterns
Shape how you show up in your relationship today.
It helps answer questions like:
• Why do certain triggers hit so deeply?
• What roles did I learn to play growing up?
• What patterns are we repeating without realizing it?
Offers the “bigger picture” - so new relational patterns can form.
Relational Life Therapy (RLT)
Recognizes that not all problems are 50/50 and approaches conversations with this honesty.
RLT is a direct approach, also known as a transformative approach that helps couples:
• Identify unhealthy patterns and habits
• Confronts and challenges power dynamics, to create more healthier dynamics
• Shift from unbalanced power struggles to respect + connection
• Builds accountability, repair and vulnerability- “removing the mask”
• Strengthen honesty , boundaries and emotional responsibility
Disclaimer: RLT is a newer relational modality with a distinct style.
Bithiah integrates core concepts when appropriate, drawing from foundational training. She does not use RLT as a full stand-alone model at this time but is pursuing further development due to the significant benefits couples can experience from a direct, growth-oriented framework.
Additional Integrative Supports
These approaches complement the primary relational frameworks and help deepen insight, healing, and emotional understanding.
IFS / Parts Work
Understanding protective parts and emotional parts of self
Psychodynamic Exploration
Understanding how past experiences shape present reactions and relational defenses
Narrative Therapy
Helps reframe unhelpful relational stories and internal narratives
Faith-Based + Christian Relationship Counseling
For couples who desire: clinical depth + spiritual grounding.
Faith-centered conversations with evidence-based relational work.
What Sets Set Apart Oasis Counseling Apart
It isn’t just the therapy, it’s the blend of:
Authenticity and relational approach
Warm, intentional environment
Deep relational and emotional work
Research-backed approaches
Trauma-aware understanding
Faith-honoring sensitivity
A passion for helping couples heal
Take the first Step
You don’t have to keep carrying this pain in silence or pretend everything is “fine.”
You can explore restoring what feels broken, fighting for what matters and lean into building something new.
Disclaimer:
While no therapist can promise specific results, our commitment is to provide care that is real, honest, and deeply attuned to your needs, hopes, and goals for treatment.
Therapy For Couples & Individuals,
In Person - El Dorado Hills, CA
+ Virtually across California.
Therapy For Couples & Individuals,
In Person - El Dorado Hills, CA
+ Virtually across California.
Contact
Set Apart Oasis Counseling
4364 Town Center Blvd, 2nd Floor, Ste 208, El Dorado Hills, CA 95762
Virtual Care Across California
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